This is me in Napoli, Italy. Traveling always brings me closer to myself,
which makes me feel very beautiful!
We are here together, navigating through these earthly dimensions, livin', doing the best we can to truly live out our ideals, formulate our conceptions of what is right and what is wrong, collecting pieces of our personal mosaics along the way.
I asked myself a question this morning - What makes me feel beautiful? I mean, really, stripping away assigned societal definitions of beauty as much as I possibly can, when it's just me in communion with my gut, sacral and root chakra, what makes me feel utterly liberated, confident and sexy?
As a multi-dimensional human being, I am concerned with these things - with living a life that is mostly, if not purely, navigated by ideas and practices that I consciously create and consent to. I don't have all the answers, but I do have some practical, grounded magic I'd love to share with you.
To live a life that feels good for you (and not necessarily a life that successfully pleases others yet inhibits your own growth) you have to clearly define and succinctly articulate what your personal value system is. I emphasize the process of defining each idea in your value system succinctly because the mind and its capacity to retain and recall information is powerful - there's a reason why advertising taglines for the most successful companies sum up their brand identity in just a few short words.
The first step is to begin with clearly establishing your personal value system. It's important for you to sit with yourself, without the influence of others and take the time to write out your list. Remember, it's your list, no one needs to see it, understand it or approve it.
Personally, I have been through enough malarkey in my life to stand behind what it is I need and don't need. So, because of this, I don't mind sharing my list. Please note that here, I added further description because this is a public forum and I do not want my words to be misunderstood. I will bold the phrases I have posted in my bedroom - short and sweet!
1. I consume real foods. I do not consume foods that hurt my body.
2. I believe in physical movement. It is natural for the body.
3. I drink two glasses of water upon rising, and often through out the day.
4. I use water to cleanse my spirit. I shower to heal myself.
5. If I have swirling thoughts, I make the time to sit down outside and feel the air brush against my skin. I love when my arms feel the open air. I take off any clothes or long sleeve shirts that prevent my skin from feeling the changeable element of the wind. I close my eyes and let the wind carry my worries away.
6. I light a candle to call upon my ancestors. I use the Tarot and my Dreams to help me see exactly what I need to see, though not always what I want to see ;)
7. I give myself permission to learn and re-learn as many times as I need.
8. I trust my gut and keep some of my visions private. I don't need to share every insight I have about how a situation will play out. Sometimes I am accurate, other times there was human bias involved which skewed my perspective - this is why it is sometimes best to say very little. Keep in mind however, that just because you are choosing not to discuss your insights with others does not mean that you should ignore what you've felt and seen. Integrate your insights, and move accordingly.
9. I sit with my sensuality and use it for the greatest good. I am a sensual person, this has an impact on those I come into contact with. Sensuality is a gift and it is the mark of a healer and nurturer. It does not need to imply sexual feelings, or sexual activity whatsoever. Sometimes the best thing to do is sit and listen with an open heart and an open mind. Don't get too carried away in the listening though, remember who you are!
10. I know when to exit, and I'll do my best to exit gracefully though this may not always be possible. Socializing and communing with our fellow human beings generally feels really good! And yet, there are times when we must turn our locus of compassion within and remove ourselves from a situation that just feels off. Standing up for yourself and your value system can be as simple as dismissing yourself from that person/group of people/situation. I try to do this gracefully wherever possible (I have decided that grace feels good for me to embody) but to be clear, there are times when the situation does not permit or call for grace. That's cool with me, too.
11. I am here to lead by example, and not necessarily by force. For as long as I can remember, I have been placed in positions of leadership, despite not viewing myself as a leader per se. I have realized that I prefer to lead by example, sharing my experiences, welcoming others to share theirs; creating more of a co-leadership style where everyone's voice is heard, whether or not I agree with the perspective.
12. I seek to understand before drawing definite conclusions. Emotional bias is real! Before drawing definite outcomes, step back and try to understand instead of placing blame or fault.
13. I accept my destiny as a seer and healer. This was and still is a challenge for me, because when I write this, I don't mean to imply that I have reached a state of mastery that renders me "better than others." Rather, what I mean to say is that based on my experiences, my lineage, my astrology and numerology chart (western, vedic, 13th sign and mayan calculations) my destiny points to a spirit endowed with psychic and/or spiritual gifts, whose life will gradually unfold in such a way where they will be forced to come to terms with their ability to heal themselves and others around them.
Have you made it this far? Impressive! Thank you for staying with me! In short, the answer to my question - What makes me feel beautiful, confident and sexy? Living out my personal value system that's what! Sounds nerdy, I know, but it's true. Try it. Write down a list of your own. Whenever you are in a funk, ask yourself if what you're doing in that very moment aligns with your personal value system - then, as always, "click" into making your next move a move that best shows who you are, and what you're really about!
The Journey Continues...
Would you like to sit down and write down your list together, or, get a Tarot Reading? Make sure to check me out!
